Being happy in a long-term relationship is one of the most difficult challenges we take on in life.

Then add the stressors of work, children, finances, health challenges, and/or unresolved past histories…and we may have perfect unhappiness. Sometimes couples are thinking about breaking up, or have reached their limits with the way things are. Others are tired of their partner’s criticizing them, and feel hopeless about ever living up to the other’s standards. Gender and personality differences enter in, as well as problems communicating.

On top of the wish list for most couples:

• Feeling heard and understood by partner
• Respectful communication, conflict resolution
• Mutually satisfying sex life

Instead, trying to negotiate all this on our own frequently leads to:

• Repetitious arguments
• Escalated conflicts
• Shutting down, avoiding each other
• Affairs of one kind or another.
• Depression/anxiety
• Misbehavior in children
• Divorce

I bring neutrality and fairness to the process… Often a partner feels as if they are being “dragged in” for counseling. They fearing they’ll be “ganged up on“,  put down, or “analyzed“. But in fact, couples counseling is about each partner having a say. It’s not about changing each other, or forcing someone into a mold.

Successful couple counseling leads to:

• Win-win solutions to re-occurring issues
• Feeling free to be ourselves.
• Renewed trust and appreciation of one another
• More mature, honest exchanges
• More fun, closeness, better sex!

I work to maintain calm conversations between us, and make sure both partners feel safe and supported. After meeting, most couples leave feeling heard & validated, and gradually let down barriers of mistrust and anger toward each other.

I hope you and your partner will feel free to call and discuss your situation and difficulties with me, and together determine the next steps.

Free consultations available.

Thank you for visiting!

Krista Post, M.A. Licensed Psychologist